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Pornography is a guy thing
Let’s clear some things up. First of all, pornography is not a guy thing. Many women have the same struggle, but it’s less talked about.
Take a look at the statistics about women and pornography on the image below:
As compared to men and pornography:
Now, obviously, more men have admitted to having struggled with viewing and using pornography, but it’s not just a problem for guys.
All guys do it.
Secondly, all guys don’t do it. Men are visual by nature, so a beautiful woman will probably catch his attention and may even pique his interest. That does not mean, however, he can’t acknowledge her beauty and move on.
When we assume that all guys do it we do three things: we minimize the problem, we tarnish those guys who don’t do it, and we give the guys who do do it a pass.
Pornography is a HUGE problem, not just a guy problem
First of all, it is a problem–a huge problem. When 79% of men 18-30 say they view pornography at least once a month, technically, at least once a month they are being unfaithful to their spouses or girlfriends. Before you click away, hear me out. At least once per month these men are seeking pleasure and satisfaction with someone other their the woman they are committed to.
Imagine if I, as a married woman, went into a room with people doing what porn stars do but only stood in the corner watching. Just one time a month. Would that be permissible, or would you say that I was involved in something that was detrimental to my mental health and my marriage? You would call me a sick-o! Rightfully so. Tell me, how is that different than a person watching the same kinds of things on a screen?
Even if we can agree that porn use for married couples is a no-no, what about those unmarried or not in a committed relationship?
According to Covenant Eyes’ article Porn In Marriage:
“Porn-Induced ED: Many guys who regularly watch porn develop porn-induced erectile dysfunction, which means they can get an erection to porn, but not their spouse or significant other.”
That’s a huge problem for guys who one day want to be married. Long-term, regular porn use, which is typically how it goes, will cause damage to marriage before the guy is even married.
Here’s the bottom line.
Porn is not just a guy thing. We saw that with the first image where it clearly shows that almost as many women, especially in the 18-30 age group, watch porn at least once a month. We do see that the numbers are drastically different when we start talking about watching several times a week, with women at 21% and men at 63%. It can be concluded that even though women do struggle, they don’t typically watch porn as often as men.
All guys don’t do it. At least 20% say they don’t watch porn at all.