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Who is the Titus 2 Woman & Why does She Matter?

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We often hear phrases like “Proverbs 31 woman” and “Titus 2 woman” tossed around in the Christian community as women we should aspire to be. It’s definitely true that we should desire to pattern our lives after these examples because at their core, they are God honoring women of faith. If we honor God at our core, we can’t help but to bear the good fruit that both the Proverbs 31 woman and Titus 2 woman bears.

Please don’t take this to mean that we have to have a checklist so that we can be sure to squeeze it all in in our lives. Take the Proverbs 31 woman: She has a lot going on in her life, but the point is that she seeks to honor God in all that she does. She is a woman who fears the Lord, and therefore, she is the excellent wife the king is looking for. [Read the passage on Bible Gateway.]

Who is this Titus 2 woman?

Since we are talking specifically here about the woman mentioned in Titus 2, look at the verses with me:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (Titus 2:3-5)

Remember — this isn’t a checklist. In some things we need checklists, but not when it comes to living and obeying God’s word. First of all, we can’t. In my own strength, I can’t, nor do I want, to do all these things. When I try to make myself be someone I’m not, I’m hiding behind what people think I should be. And when I try to do everything just so, checking my boxes, it becomes legalism, and I botch it anyway.

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The Titus 2 woman is God honoring, and God fearing. She loves the Lord, and she loves her family. She’s not just checking off items on a list. It is her heart. We know that out of the abundance of the heart, is our true self known. (Luke 6:45) Whatever is in the heart pours forth. 

This woman fails. I promise you she does, but when she does, rather than beating herself up for failing, she cries out to her Father for forgiveness and for the strength to get back up.

Why does The Titus 2 Woman Matter?

As Christian women, we should all long to be described as this woman in Titus 2. I know I want to be that woman! It is my desire to share what I know with my daughters and other young women. Younger women need this woman in their lives. Guess what…there’s always a younger woman than you that you can reach out to, to be the Titus 2 woman for. Every one of us needs this woman in our lives.

Titus 2 Woman: Who She is & Why She Matters

How does one become a Titus 2 Woman?

Becoming a Titus 2 woman isn’t something we sit down with our pen and paper, jotting down the tasks that will cause us to transform into this woman.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (Titus 2:3-5)

Older women teach the younger to…

  • Be reverent in behavior — meaning deeply respectful. Don’t bash your husband or complain about your children. But also and even more importantly, deeply respectful, worshipful, to God.

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer. Psalm 19:14

  • Be not slanders — Don’t defame or publicly harm someone with your words.
  • Don’t be slave to much wine — much wine alters who we are and the amount of control we have over our thoughts and actions.

The older women must teach what is good, training the young women to…

  • love their husbands and children — We are born selfish. Loving our husbands and children requires a sacrifice not known to us as we enter marriage and motherhood. We need someone (someone Godly like the Titus 2 woman) to teach us.
  • be self-controlled — This is a fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5), but controlling our every action and not lashing out is not easy feat. We need someone pouring into us so that we can learn to turn away from our raw emotions and be self-controlled.
  • pure — unmixed with any other matter, (Merriam-Webster), wholly Gods, striving to resist temptation to sin.
  • working at home — Some may see this as we must be stay-at-home-moms in order to be obeying scripture. While I do believe that is the best case scenario for families, I understand that in this day, in our culture, it is sometimes necessary for two parents to work. I do not look negatively at any family who makes the decision for mom to work. However, I think this verse isn’t necessarily addressing that at all, but rather that we are taking care of our households first and foremost. We make sure everything is in order, we feed our families, take care of the tasks, whether by doing it ourselves or delegating the job.
  • kind — being friendly, generous, warmhearted, and having compassion. In general, loving one another.
  • submissive to their own husbands — This part of the verse rubs many people wrong, and they therefore, ignore the whole thing altogether. Submissive simply means yielding the will to another. That still ruffles feathers, so we need to look at Ephesians 5 where Paul talked about how marriage works. The husband first, is supposed to love his wife as Christ loved the church, giving himself up for her. He goes on to be very specific as to what that looks like, loving her as he loves his own body. That, in turn, is what makes the wife desire to be submissive, or respectful, even when they don’t fully agree.

Why should we care about becoming Titus 2 Women?

It is important for Christian women to talk with one another so that we understand these concepts so that we can in turn become a Titus 2 woman. We are so busy that we have forgotten what it’s like to live in community, to care about other people, to teach those behind us. The mindset seems to be, “I’ve raised my kids. I’m done.” The truth is, though, we are never done. There’s always someone a step behind us, struggling with honoring their husbands and raising their children, failing at having self-control and being kind. We need each other.

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Older women have a wisdom that younger women just haven’t grown into yet. However, if they don’t share that wisdom, how are the younger women to know? I fall into both categories. I need an older woman, a Titus 2 woman, in my life, teaching me. Likewise, I am an older woman to many, and my job is to share what I know–not in a bossy way, but in a loving and kind way, showing my desire that they seek the Lord and honor him in their day to day.

I would say that most of us fall into both categories. Let’s agree to teach the younger women, and at the same time seek to be taught by older ones. Because it’s included in Scripture, we know God considers it important. How will they know if we don’t share and teach? Being a Titus 2 woman means that we take the time to gently teach and lead by example. 

Examples of Titus 2 Women in my life…

There are two women who, as I am writing, come to my mind as Titus 2 women. One answers to Marion; the other to Avis. When I was a young wife and mother, Marion took me under her wing. She taught me what it was like making things from scratch like jelly and bread, and what it meant to keep house.

Avis helped me with my oldest when she was a baby by keeping her while I finished up college. She always offered gentle reminders about how important it is to be with your kids when they are little if at all possible.

Both ladies taught me unforgettable lessons, but one that stands above the rest was about honoring my husband no matter what. No one had ever really taught me that so clearly, but both of these Titus 2 women took the opportunity to teach me how important it was.

Marion showed me what it meant to notice a need and fill it. She had a good eye for noticing the needs of others. Avis modeled how important it was to regularly be in the Word. I remember her often at the kitchen table reading her worn Ryrie Study Bible, sipping her cup of coffee.

I wasn’t the only young woman these ladies invested their time in. They took their roles as an “older woman” seriously, and I now desire to be the “older woman” because of it.

What about you?

Do you have a Titus 2 woman in your life? Are you a better woman because of her? Regardless if you have been blessed to have such a godly woman in your life, you can be this godly, Titus 2 woman for someone else. May be always be ready to mentor younger women!

For more encouragement, check out the encouragement archives. 

March 22, 2018 · 16 Comments

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  1. shan says

    March 22, 2018 at 12:07 pm

    So funny, my Titus 2 went by the name of Marian. Similiar name to yours but a different person of course. She taught me so much about pushing my own fleshly thoughts and desires to the side and following God ESPECIALLY when it was hard (& I didn’t agree with the hubs on things). I’m forever grateful.

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    • Brina Lynn says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:44 pm

      These women never know what an impact they have on other (usually younger) women. *We* have no idea who we impact either. May we always be seeking the Lord and sharing his love with other women!

      Reply
  2. Sara says

    March 27, 2018 at 3:42 pm

    Nice thoughtful message…

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    • Brina Lynn says

      March 27, 2018 at 4:31 pm

      Thank you, Sara!

      Reply
  3. Jennifer Love says

    March 28, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    Wow- those women in your life sound like very valuable and thoughtful help! When I was a new teacher I reached out to an older teacher to mentor me because I had her kids in class and they were great! That could be criteria to look for to draw you to someone too. Very important idea that we keep sharing and giving the next generation! (I work with college girls weekly and they are hungry!)

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    • Brina Lynn says

      March 28, 2018 at 2:30 pm

      Yes, Jennifer! We have to keep pouring into one another!

      Reply
  4. Dani M. says

    March 28, 2018 at 5:37 pm

    I recently read “Adorned” by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth all about this and it was amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and exhorting us to pour into other women in our lives. God’s design and instruction is so beautiful when we live it out out of love for Him. 🙂

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  5. KellyRBaker says

    May 25, 2018 at 3:11 pm

    Great post! Pinning!

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  6. Marvis says

    August 28, 2018 at 4:32 pm

    Great write up….I always admire and wud love to be the Titus 2 and Prov 31 woman

    Reply
  7. Jo Lynn says

    February 6, 2019 at 7:02 pm

    I had wondered to myself if I may be old enough to be a Titus 2 woman to someone else, even though I feel like I need one in my life for myself. I’m really lucky to have an aunt who fills that role in my life if I need the advice, but since I live a little ways away now, it’s harder to get together. I appreciate what this post says, and will keep my eyes open for the opportunity.

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  8. Cheyenne Gonzales says

    June 21, 2021 at 9:55 am

    This is so good! Thank you so much for sharing!

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    • Brina Lynn says

      August 1, 2021 at 3:08 pm

      Cheyenne, I’m glad it was helpful! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

      Reply
  9. Shirley M. says

    August 18, 2021 at 3:41 pm

    Encouraging young mothers to have a career is a hallmark of feminism…a career means that a woman’s time and energy will go first to a job, leaving her husband and children with the ‘leftovers.’ A career means that a woman will delegate a substantial amount of childcare to others–often strangers. Husbands, children, and home are not her priority and it shows in how she spends her time. Love of one’s husband and children cannot be shifted to others. ‘Keepers at home,’ shows the place where she can be found as well as her attentions. Wise young couples fulfill their God-given roles: husbands as leaders, providers, protectors; mothers as nurturers, help meets, and homemakers. God’s plan for marriage and family is perfect. Recent generations have rejected his plan and the fruit of that rejection shows. Each family can choose to recognize their error in following worldly ways and learn and follow God’s plan–that redirection can start TODAY. It’s not too late for individual families to grieve their losses and with broken, contrite hearts, humbly seek to walk in God’s ways! The children in such families will be blessed! Such homes will be blessed!

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    • Brina Lynn says

      August 29, 2021 at 5:15 pm

      Hi, Shirley. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts. In this article, I–in no way–encouraged young mothers to have a career. I simply stated that in our day, in our culture, it is sometimes necessary for two parents to work. What I always seek to encourage is this: that we be godly wives and mothers, but also what works for their lives at a particular point in time.

      We agree that the best for families is that they follow the model given by God. I agree that we have, as a whole, shifted from God’s plan.

      However, encouraging young women to do what’s best for their families is not feminism. I assure you–I’m anything but feminist. But I believe that all of our stories are different. No variables are the same. We live in a fallen world. Therefore, there are instances where women have no choice but to have jobs outside the home. And that’s okay.

      Reply
  10. Christina Kinsey says

    October 11, 2022 at 10:08 am

    Hmm, as someone interested in women’s history, l disagree with the idea that women should keep to children , cooking and church . Until the lndustrial Revolution, if not later , women often worked in the family business or had their own business, either way it would have been mostly from home as people tended to live over the shop. Please , much more context would be better , spare us the Bible bit and all the moral finger wagging . We can work things out for ourselves.

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    • Brina Lynn says

      October 11, 2022 at 8:06 pm

      You clearly did not read the blog post in its entirety. There was no moral finger wagging, and since my blog is my space and it is clearly Christian in nature, I’m not sure why you bothered to stop at all.

      Reply

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