Here’s a life-changing question for couples broken by pornography that want more than anything to see their marriages mended…
What’s the difference between a marriage restored where trust is once again a thing…
…and your current state of fear, shame, guilt, and complete brokenness?
If you guessed…
…pretending it never happened. You would be wrong.
…chalking it up “pornography is the norm.” You would be mistaken.
…or just calling it quits. You would still be ever so badly mistaken.
Because at the end of the day, it isn’t about ignoring problems, blaming one another, or giving up, but really and truly fighting together to build lasting trust.
Like anything else in the world, there are two ways of doing things: give up by ignoring it or digging in, doing the hard work, and fighting for your marriage.
If restoration is what you want in your marriage...
You’ll want to discover how to rebuild trust
so you can experience restoration in your marriage.
Here’s what you will need to know about a fully restored marriage that experiences complete trust and can be better than it was before…
While the potential for every broken couple to enjoy complete trust is very possible, it takes very directed steps to see restoration in marriage.
With these direct steps in place, the days of fear, shame, guilt, and complete brokenness will become a thing of the past as you begin to experience benefits of these directed steps.
The internet can be so overwhelming with all the well-meaning marriage advice at your finger tips, leaving you feeling not sure where to start or what trust even means.
If you’re anything like us when we started this journey to restoration in 2016, you know that you don’t want to ignore the problem or pass it off as normal. That just requires you to move on while your marriage is falling apart and you are dying inside. Yet having just discovered that your spouse has been using pornography and with the complete brokenness you feel, you may be unsure how survive right now, let alone how to actually move past and live a normal life with your spouse again.
The more we committed to building lasting trust, the more we began to see that we might actually be able to walk through the betrayal and come out as one on the other side. The more transparent we were in the beginning, the more confident we became that we could overcome. We saw the importance of repentance, confession, and transparency and how they all played a part in our healing. However, we were eager for the hurt to be over and for the distance between us to go away, so that our normal could return to our marriage and ultimately our family.
As we faithfully forged ahead, we were on the road to restoration without realizing that true freedom and complete restoration was going to be the reward that we reaped for being committed to our marriage.
It felt great to finally experience trust and freedom again in our marriage.
Now, we help broken couples remove the feeling of isolation and identify where to begin in rebuilding trust!
But before we share our story with you, we want to tell you about why the majority of marriages broken by pornography aren’t finding the full restoration that they deeply desire.
The REAL Reason Most couples Aren’t Experiencing Restoration in their Marriages:
After four years with couples fighting the pornography battle, we have witnessed so many who were completely broken. Only, not just broken, but utterly embarrassed and living in constant fear that the offending spouse would break his or her promise to never do it again. The constant stress as well as worry, doubt, and fear of whether or not their marriage could EVER be the same again, is inevitably what HAS kept them from moving toward the result that they so desire, which is restoration.
We know, based on statistics, that hundreds of couples are smoothing it over, making excuses, and choosing to look past it for years because it’s “normal.” Spouses are blamed for over-reacting because “it’s not even real.” They go on and on like this with a constant fear that sometimes gets buried for chunks of time when things are going well, but it lies dormant because it is never dealt with. Yet sadly, couples are no closer to experiencing true and lasting restoration.
Married couples really are some of the most dedicated people we know and deserve to experience how these directed steps truly lead to restoration in their marriage.
We are talking about…
- complete brokenness
- fear of the sincerity of the apology and the possibility of relapse.
- feeling skeptical of true openness
- not being able to let go of the lies of the past
- feeling the guilt associated with the offended spouse, “this is my fault.”
- no one understands the hurt, shame, loneliness, and anger
- getting the spouse to understand that trust is earned
- breaking through the silence
- trying to forgive and forget
- And the list goes on and on…
The good news is that almost every one of these can be overcome! In fact, most of this list will be simplified with our roadmap put into place.
These things are fueled by the anger, fear, and doubt that keeps couples stuck in their current state of broken trust, instead of giving them the steps to true and complete restoration. When experiencing broken trust, all kinds of emotions are going to show up, but it’s how we decide to manage them and what we decide to do apart from them that really counts!
The truth is that if you want different results, you need to do things differently. It’s time to STOP sweeping things under the rug, and face them head on.
But first, you need to know exactly what these steps are that leads to restoration in your marriage.
New love is the brightest,
and long love is the greatest,
but revived love
is the tenderest thing known on earth.
~Thomas Hardy
Here’s Why Most Couples Never See Complete Restoration
Marriages always start with so much potential!
You have so many visions and thoughts of what your married life will be like. It’s exciting to be spending the rest of your life with your best friend! We all want the fairy tale.
That’s why it’s completely devastating when your spouse breaks the trust you have built. The person you trusted most in the world, the one you delighted in, the one you gave everything for, broke his or her vow, and thus, left your relationship broken.
On top of that…
- You know that things can never be the same again.
- You believe that somehow you are partly to blame.
- You trust that you can only forgive if you can forget.
And it is with this ‘knowledge‘ that you can’t move forward to the restoration that you so desire, doing what you believe to be the solution
even though you experience brokenness and defeat again and again in your marriage.
With a focused commitment and desire to fix your marriage, you get started.
SoSo!You pull yourself up, get yourself together, and determine to forgive and just let it go. It starts off with grit and determination- but you find yourself still hurting and not able to leave your bitterness behind.
You begin doubting yourself.
You start comparing your journey with other couples.
You wonder what you are missing that they are doing right. Why is their marriage so much better? Do they never have problems?
You begin thinking that you must have brought this on yourself. Self-doubt sets in, and you start believing that you could have done something to keep your spouse’s eyes on you alone.
Then you begin questioning your entire marriage…
What am I doing here?
How do I move past this?
Why do feel so low and so all alone?
Am I even deserving of my spouse’s devotion?
And worst of all…
Even if I figure out how to really forgive and move forward, is it even possible for me to trust my spouse again?
How can I ever feel normal in my marriage again?
Will he or she turn back to porn?
Is it even possible for us to overcome the broken trust with all the lies that covered the past?
Adding to your own concerns, the overwhelm increases because you don’t want everyone around you to see what you are dealing with. So, you put on your happy face and pretend everything is fine, yet this in and of itself further isolates you.
It doesn’t matter if you are a cup half-full or silver-lining person, you will eventually want to give up on trying to make your marriage work because it looks so different from what you thought it would or think it should. The fact that you’re not even sure you can forgive your spouse to actually start the process of restoration, is what keeps you stuck.
And that’s it.
You won’t be experiencing the beauty of transparency.
You won’t be experiencing the freedom of forgiveness.
You won’t be experiencing complete trust in your spouse.
You won’t see the marriage restoration that you so desire.
While what you want is to rebuild trust in your marriage, it’s often much easier to blame yourself, admit that it’s really “not that bad,” and put your head down and just move on. At least that’s what the world tells us.
It’s true: The Bible teaches that we must forgive. How many times? In Matthew, Jesus told the disciples to keep on forgiving, even seven times 70 times! (18:22) So yes, we are to forgive, but Jesus also says that to look at a woman with lust is to commit adultery in your heart. (Matthew 5:28) The point is that there are many moving pieces and it’s not a “just” forgive and forget.
So for all of your hard work, you will have attempted to fix your broken marriage by letting time “heal” your wounds. The truth is–that would be the worst thing you can do.
REAL TRUTH: Your fears regarding your marriage are totally justified.
While the odds to seeing complete restoration in your marriage seems low – the potential of this happening is high!
Almost unreasonably high… with the right core elements.
SO many things have to look different from what many people will advise you to do, to even get started by laying the ground rules that leads to restoration in your marriage.
The Offended:
- You need to give yourself grace.
- You need to set safeguards and boundaries.
- You need to understand how porn affects the brain.
- You need to grasp what forgiveness really is.
The Offender:
- You need to take responsibility.
- You need to fully and sincerely repent.
- You need to confess to your spouse.
- You need to have accountability.
Together:
- You must commit.
- You need to build trust.
- And so much more…
And because you are so busy in life and in your home already, you don’t have a lot of extra time to figure out the core elements for restoration with a trial and error approach.
The core elements to rebuilding trust are the very things that will begin to heal your hearts and your marriage when implemented correctly.
Establishing the foundation or laying the ground rules is the first step to rebuilding trust.
We understand that you don’t have the time or the head space to attempt to figure out the exact core elements that establishing the rules for restoration. You are emotionally and mentally exhausted!
In fact, the core elements necessary to restore your marriage are not easily found in one place outside of in-person counseling. You may find them here and there but because there’s so much from differing viewpoints (and many of them unhealthy) it took months for us to discover these elements. It was through much prayer, searching Scripture, and seeking godly counsel that we received restoration in our own marriage.
Assuming you can “fix your marriage” by simply pushing through like you see broken couples doing and get the same results is often what causes most marriages to experience a repeat break in trust. This will eventually rob the restoration from couples who desire to have their marriage back!
The difference between complete restoration and ready to give up is the firm foundation you build and other core elements of the journey.
BUT… here’s the good news.
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ results in restored marriages when these core elements inside are implemented.
With the right roadmap covering the core elements of building trust that leads to restoration, you will find the determination and desire to commit to rebuilding trust that will bring you healing and mending in your marriage.
What It’s Like Living in a Restored Marriage
Being the wife of Chris for 21 years, I’m so thankful for the restoration we found for ourselves and our marriage back in 2017.
Our story stared way back in 1996 when we became high school sweethearts. My heart desired a loving, doting, proud husband! And that’s just what it got. While our story has it’s bumps (like all do), we experienced a joyful, happy marriage until just after our 7th child was born.
That’s when he confessed to me that he had an addiction to pornography. He already had received repentance but he wanted to confess to me. He knew that by doing so, life was about to get very rocky.
It was on that hard, rocky road that we discovered the elements needed for complete healing and restoration in our marriage!
Truly, when trust is broken, there is nothing more important than experiencing healing and restoration!
The biggest mistake that most couples make is that they don’t make accountability and transparency a priority.
These [accountability and transparency] along with communication and commitment are core elements for rebuilding broken trust in any marriage.
What couples don’t realize is that if they faithfully do take these steps in the beginning, they will be securing restoration.
And by restoration, we mean a marriage in which you can freely trust and be confident in.
When a couple is able to walk towards trusting again, they have secured restoration.
Are you ready to invest in your marriage with a tried and proven roadmap that leads to restoration by rebuilding trust?
The fact that you are still reading this…
- We KNOW you have a strong desire to see your marriage healed.
- We KNOW you are done with the brokenness and fear that leaves you overwhelmed and depleted as a couple.
- We KNOW you lack confidence in your ability to fix your marriage although fixing it is all you can think about.
- We KNOW you are ready to do what it takes to mend your marriage, even though you’re not completely clear on what that looks like or how to go about implementing it.
And that’s why we are excited to invite you to join us in The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ where we will guide you on how restoration in your marriage is 100% possible!
Are you ready for complete restoration in
YOUR marriage?
If so, I would love to introduce you to …
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ is a 6-month program that guides couples who have been broken by pornography and leads them to fully trusting again by restoring their marriage.
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ provides you with step-by-step actions to take in order to restore broken trust, even if you have no idea how to proceed at this point.
Inside this program, you will:
- Establish the ground rules for how and why certain things must take place in order to even begin your journey to restoration.
- Commit to your marriage, your spouse, and to yourself by learning what true commitment is.
- Build trust with one another through trust building activities, but first understanding the true nature of trust.
- Embrace changes that the all of this has brought into your marriage.AND…
- Living in the restoration of your marriage!
And the BEST part is…
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ will give you confidence to not just trust this step-by-step roadmap but to commit to restoring your marriage.
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ is the perfect program for you if…
- You are committed to your marriage
- You struggle with knowing how to even begin moving forward
- You are concerned about your spouse “slipping up”
- You desire to see your marriage healed
- You BOTH are willing to do what it takes
- You haven’t reached out to someone because of shame
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ is a 6-month program designed to equip couples to build trust broken by pornography that leads to complete restoration in their marriage .
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ provides you with step-by-step actions (from a Biblical worldview) to take in order to restore broken trust, even if you are ready for a divorce.
Consider The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ as a digital course coupled with an online mentoring program to help broken couples who desperately desire to see their marriages restored. It focuses on and pinpoints certain steps we took ourselves for the sake of our own marriage, and in turn eliminates time lost in searching for answers.
GAIN 6-MONTH ACCESS TO THE THE MARRIAGE RESTORATION ROADMAP™
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ consists of FOUR deliverables supporting the core roadmap inside with resources for married couples.
The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ starts with a 5-module core roadmap that walks couples through their broken trust and naturally leads to restoration.
The focus of this core The Marriage Restoration Roadmap™ is to equip couples to build trust and see restoration in their marriage.
Let’s face it, without TRUST you can never be free and have a fully restored marriage!
FIRST DELIVERABLE: 5-MODULE CORE ROADMAP:
HERE’S WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE CORE ROADMAP
SECOND DELIVERABLE: GROUP MENTORING
The LIVE SESSION each month is done on Zoom (a free software for participants) These are video calls where you can choose to join us on video or just listen in. Each month, you will have the opportunity to pre-submit questions to get live mentoring in your restoration process in areas where you find yourself lost and overwhelmed. We will store recorded meetings in the program’s hub along with other course material.
You will also have access to our online community where you can feel safe asking questions and getting answers as you move from brokenness to trusting again.
THIRD DELIVERABLE: THE ACCOUNTABILITY BLUEPRINT
“The Accountability Blueprint” will get down to the nitty-gritty about the importance of and ways to implement accountability. Without accountability, “staying the course” isn’t likely for most people.
FOURTH DELIVERABLE: THE COMMUNICATION BLUEPRINT
“The Communication Blueprint” discusses the importance of and ways to communicate even in your brokenness so that you can reach the end result: restoration! Comminication is KEY to any relationship.
PLUS YOU GET THESE BONUSES
SOLACE IN THE PSALMS DEVOTIONAL AND JOURNAL
This is a devotional that focuses solely on the verses in Psalms that will help you through the darkness and give you opportunity to write your thoughts for each day.
BATTLE EACH DAY DEVOTIONAL
This is a devotional that focuses solely on the verses to help you through the struggles you will face each day as you seek to break free from the addiction of pornography.
GOD’S DESIGN FOR MARRIAGE AND SEX (MINI-COURSE)
God’s Design for Marriage and Sex mini-course is a course that goes into detail about God’s heart for marriage, each spouse’s role, as well as the place, symbolism, and importance of sex in the Biblical marriage.
THE TRUST EQUATION
The Trust Equation Blueprint is a guide that will help you better understand the elements of trust AND to teach you HOW to implement each of those in your marriage.
Total Value = $917
EVERYTHING YOU NEED FOR RESTORING YOUR MARRIAGE
When enrolling in THE MARRIAGE RESTORATION ROADMAP™, you are committing to the full 6-month program with Chris and Sabrina as your marriage mentors.
PLEASE NOTE: This program is only for those couples who are serious about committing to restoring their marriages with us as their marriage mentors.
There is NO refund or cancellation policy. When enrolling, you are committing to this 6-month program and the full payment.
Chris and Sabrina are committed to mentoring you through how to have restoration in your marriage after pornography.
CHOOSE YOUR PROGRAM ENROLLMENT AT CHECKOUT
NO REFUND OR CANCELLATION POLICY
This 6-month program has been designed for those who already know they are committed to restoring their marriage, whatever it takes.
It is not for those who are not BOTH seeking restoration.
This doesn’t mean that you need to come into the program with an idea of how it all will work together, but with a commitment to yourself, your spouse, and your marriage.
Although this is a program to help couples rebuild trust after pornography, you’ll discover other things to enhance your marriage.
If you cancel your payments, you will be obligated to pay your remaining balance in FULL upon cancellation.
About Chris and Sabrina
Chris’s desire to be free from the bonds of pornography led to his repentance and confession to Sabrina. He knew doing such would leave them both broken, but it was the only way to lead the way for healing.
Sabrina had no idea that her marriage would ever be turned upside down. It was in her loneliness and brokenness that she questioned all that she ever held dear. And she began a long, lonely road that she wasn’t sure would ever end.
This program has been birthed out of the journey they found themselves on and the steps they took to receive restoration in their marriage. This is a journey they took entirely by themselves, as the shame and guilt overtook them. Now, they understand the importance of sharing their story, which is why today you have the opportunity to take a trip on THE MARRIAGE RESTORATION ROADMAP™!
Are you ready for your marriage to be restored?
YOU MAY HAVE THESE QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PROGRAM
Q: What's Included in The Marriage Restoration Roadmap?
The five modules that make up the core roadmap including various resources to use with each module.
One mentoring call each month.
Access to our online community.
Both the ACCOUNTABILITY BLUEPRINT and the COMMUNICATION BLUEPRINT.
Two devotionals: one for the offended spouse and one for the offending spouse.
God’s Design for Marriage and Sex Mini-Course
The Trust Equation
Q: How long will it take me to complete the core roadmap?
You have access to the roadmap for 6 months. If you need more support after the six months, you will have the opportunity to renew your enrollment at the same price that you originally enrolled at.
Q: What are the Mentor Meetings?
These are zoom meetings where group mentoring will occur. We will take through issues that have you stuck on your journey to healing. These will occur once a month.
Q: When are the Mentor Meetings?
Mentor meetings will be the second Thursday at 8:30 pm EDT.
Q: Are there payment plans available?
You can choose to pay the full price upfront or you can choose to make monthly payments, whichever is best on your budget.
Q: Is there a refund policy if I'm not satisfied?
No. Due to the nature of the roadmap and the variables of each couple, we cannot issue refunds. We provide steps that work, but only if followed whole-heartedly by both spouses.