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Get on Track | Part 3: 10 Sure Ways to Dig Out of the Hole

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Over the last few weeks, I’ve shared ways to get on track with your finances in parts one and two of this series.  Today I’d like to share a few more things (and maybe reiterate a couple) that can really make a difference when you are trying to “find” and save money.

Get on track | Part 3: 10 sure ways to dig out of the hole

How can I dig out of this hole?

Eat beans and rice. Not even kidding.  I know I mentioned it before–more than once–but really.  It’s cheap and a pretty good source of fuel.  We ate it more times in a month than I care to admit.  The big kids still joke about it.  Or when they complain, Daddy reminds them that we could be eating beans and rice.  Really it’s not as bad as all that.  I have finally found some recipes that are really pretty good!  One in particular that everyone loved is black bean and rice enchiladas.  You’re welcome!  Substitute as you need to…it’ll all turn out just fine.

Meal plan. I hated meal planning, but I had to to make my grocery budget last.  First, I looked at the sales, then planned as best as I could according to those.  Every meal was planned, including snacks between meals.  I had a spreadsheet that I entered the item and out to the side, the price.  With Excel, formulas to calculate the total are a cinch, so I knew what to expect at the store.

Freeze spending.  If it’s not absolutely necessary, don’t buy it.  Really take time to reassess needs vs. wants.  We really don’t need all we think we need.  Promise.  Take a step back, think on it a day or two, then purchase if it really is a need.  Just don’t spend hastily.

Shop used.  Thrift stores.  Consignments stores or sales.  Second-hand appliance stores.  Seriously.  You’d be amazed at what you can find in these places, and usually, in good condition.  Just know that sometimes you gotta dig, so be prepared for it not to be an in and out kind of thing.

Extracurricular cut. This isn’t popular.  But if you can’t feed the kids and keep the lights on, you might need to let something go. Baseball season will come around again.  Vacation can wait a year.  True story.  Been there.

Stay home. This kind of goes with cutting the extracurricular activities.  If you don’t have money for gas, you might need to stay home.  I have had to call a friend and say, “Hey, I really don’t have the money for gas this week to do what we planned.  I’m sorry.”  Just ask my sister.  😉

Cut recurring expense.  Anything that recurs each month that you can cut, do.  Cable–we haven’t had cable in years.  Seriously, years.  We cut it way back when I came home, 7+ years ago.   If you have more than one phone, cut what you don’t use or need.

Sell some stuff.  It’s true that most of us have “stuff” laying around, cluttering up our houses and lives just because…because someone gave it to us…because maybe I’ll fit into it again one day…because I might need it for something someday.  If you haven’t used it the last year or so, chances are you are not going to.  Sell it.  You’ll be surprised at how much stuff you can part with and how much money you can make doing it.

Just say no.  Bottom line. Sometimes you have to tell people no.  After church, someone comes up to you and says, “Hey, we are all going to Burger King for supper.  Ya’ll wanna come?”  I always want to go, but there have been many, many times that our budget didn’t allow us to go.  In the end, it’s all gravy.  We ate supper anyway, and we lived to tell our rice and beans story!

Get a bigger shovel.  Maybe for a time, just a season, you need to take on extra jobs to bring in just a little extra to get this debt under control. I read about a family once that worked together on the weekends cutting wood and delivering it, as firewood, to well-established neighborhoods.  It was their side hustle.  They all worked together and saw amazing things happen in their finances!

All hands on deck!  It’s time to unite and dig out of the hole.

10 sure ways to dig out of the hole

 

Bonus Tip: Get help.  If you have to, ask for help.  We hate stooping that low because we are supposed to be self-sufficient, right?  Get that out of your head!  I know it can be embarrassing, but sometimes, you just need help.  Maybe you need help with the kids.  Could it be you need help with getting all this budget stuff in check?  You might need help buying groceries or keeping the lights on.  Reach out to someone you trust.  If you don’t let them know where you are, they won’t know how to help.

It’s hard!

I know, and it stinks!  However, the ugly truth is that almost always, we got ourselves into the financial dump we now find ourselves in.

Maybe we had too much fun on the front end which got us into the mess in the first place.  Unfortunately, everything costs us something, either on the front end or the back end.  Eventually, we have to pay up.  Personally, after digging out of the hole, I’d rather take the hit up front.

Guess what.  If you discipline yourself now, you’ll be thanking yourself later, and you’ll be wondering why it took you so long to get on track with your finances in the first place.  Ultimately, sacrifice is the only way to get back on track! Uncle Dave (as he is called in our house) always say, “Live like no one else, so that you can live like no one else.”  We have adopted that motto, and when we want something or are frustrated with where we find ourselves financially, we say it–out loud!

Like I mentioned in part 1 of the “get on track with your finances” series, once you get the momentum going and that adrenaline kicks in, you won’t want to stop.  You’ll see that savings account build and those credit balances drop, and you’ll never want to look back.

Make the best of the journey

Some of you may be saying, “That sounds just awful!”  Honestly, I get that, but it doesn’t have to be all boring and bland.  Be creative.  Find fun free or cheap things to do in your area.  We did all the free things we could do.  Things like:

  • playing at the park (any park, all parks, lots of times)
  • visiting the library–my kids LOVE the library, and not just because we are homeschool nerds. The library actually has lots of fun things to do and tons of programs going on, especially in the summer!
  • watching a $2 movie at the theater.
  • visiting out of town family and crashing on their floor or in their extra rooms.
  • having game nights regularly (budget to buy a new game every few months).
  • enjoying a nearby beach or lake or river.
  • making a slip-n-slide out of a piece of plastic and a sprinkler.

Get on track with your finances | Part 3

Really, there are so many more things to do than you might realize.  Check out this old-fashioned summer bucket list for more ideas of free or cheap things you can do to make cutting back on spending not so unbearable!

And if you get nothing else, remember…

Live like no one else, so you can live like no one else!  (Dave Ramsey)

Get On Track | Part 2: How to Save Money When You’re Broke

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The question so many people ask is, “How do I save money when I have nothing left?  I’m broke.”  That’s the same question we had.  We had cut all the obvious things, and made big changes, as I mentioned in Part 1 of this series. Let me share with you the next steps of our story and some ways you can “find” and save money.

Get On Track Part 2 | How To Save Money When You're Broke

Also in part 1, I talked about how we moved in the direction of me coming home to homeschool our kids.  I explained our two year plan, telling you what steps we took to meet our goal.  You need to know that it wasn’t easy.  Sometimes on the other side of something, we forget how hard the thing was when we were muddling through it.  So, I don’t want to say, “Just stop doing ______  ” or “Just be sure to do ______.”  The concept can seem simple, but not to someone trying to make heads or tails of this beast named Finances.

What happened after the two-year plan

Remember, our income was cut in half, and we were at a loss as to where to go from that point.  With almost no extra to pay down debt, we had no idea how to pay down the student loans we still had.  That’s when Chris discovered Crown Financial Ministries’ Debt Elimination course.

Neither of us can say that we were regularly subject to wise financial practices.  However, according to cultural standards, we were “good” with money: we always paid our bills on time and mostly kept the checkbook balanced.  But that’s deceiving.  We were bound to all that debt and burdened by the weight of carrying it all, even if we could manage the payment each month.  And sometimes manage was barely manage.

It wasn’t until we worked through the Debt Elimination Workbook that we really began to understand how poor of an understanding we had.  As assigned in the course, we began writing down what we owed our creditors, tracked daily spending, and at last saw how ugly the real picture was.  We were convinced that we needed to be keeping better records and implement a budget.

Next Steps

The course also recommends using the envelope system and, therefore, cash for purchases.  Our envelopes are for groceries, gas, auto needs, miscellaneous stuff (eating out, birthdays, etc.), and our little farm expenses.  We then set up a separate savings account so that we could plan for insurance and taxes and pest control and not be caught by surprise during the year.  This was huge for us, and one of the the most important steps we took.

Even with all this, we still at times defaulted to the credit card.  You know that funny little Murphy’s Law? “Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.” Yep.  That one.  When you have no money saved, and you’re barely scraping by, the only thing to do in an emergency situation is borrow money.  While we didn’t use the credit card freely like we had in the past, there were times when we felt we had no choice.  It’s a never-ending cycle, friends!

Kicking it up a notch

That’s when we got wind of Dave Ramsey.  I’ll be honest, he’s hardcore.  He’ll tell you like it is, and most likely hurt your pride and your feelings.  But the man knows what he’s talking about and can help you get out of the financial dump.

We began our Total Money Makeover on one teacher’s salary!  We stopped spending, and started saving so that we could  have a cushion for when emergencies come up.  And ya’ll, they will; I promise they will!

It took us some time to get an emergency savings fund, but when we did, that was a total game changer.  The difference is, when you have actual money to pay for emergencies, like the air conditioner going out in June in the South (yes, that is an emergency!), you aren’t digging a deeper hole.  Yes, we had to replenish our emergency fund following said emergency, but we were paying ourselves back interest free instead of someone else.

Get on Track Part 2 | How To Save Money When You're Broke

How did we save money when there wasn’t much to save?

Along with continuing with those things I mentioned in part 1, here are some ways to save money when you’re broke:

  • Eat cheap.  Like beans and rice cheap.  We did this multiple times a month.
  • Sell stuff, lots of stuff.
  • Come up with side hustle.  I started selling crocheted blankets and hats and scarves.  Chris would at times have odd little computer jobs, and everything we made, we either saved or threw at debt (depending on what phase we were in).
  • Use “extra” money to pay debt.  When income tax time came, we finished our emergency fund and used any remaining refund to pay on student loans rather than take fun vacations.

Those first steps were huge for us.  It was then that we could begin really making headway on our remaining debt.  Since we had multiple student loans, we started with the one with the lowest balance.  Once we kicked one out, we started on another, adding the monthly payment from the first to the second, and so on–the debt snowball it’s called.  It takes time; sometimes lots of time, but it’s so worth it!

Are you ready to kick debt to the curb?

You’ll work hard, crazy hard.  It will get tough, then tougher until you start making headway, but the freedom that comes from being debt free is amazing!  Hard work pays off.  Think about how much money you would have left each month if you didn’t have credit card payments or student loans or car loans.  You are talking hundreds, my friend, hundreds.  So, what are you waiting for?

Camping With the Ill-Prepared | The First, but Not Last Time

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Sometimes you need a getaway.  But sometimes money is tight or you have a boatload of little people.  Going away to stay in a hotel just doesn’t have any appeal.  And sometimes, you agree to go camping because your husband wants go camping.

For Christmas, the kids and I gave their daddy a 10 man tent, and he has been itching to use it.  They did set it up in the front yard one night, while I and my not-so-sure-about-camping kids opted to stay in our cozy beds.  Other than the times I camped in the yard with friends as a kid, I only had “for real” camped once, and it was just ehhh.  But because I love my man, I agreed to do this thing…7 kids in tow.

I would not be exaggerating one bit if I said I had no idea how to pack for a camping trip.  I knew we needed the tent (duh) and air mattresses, sleeping bags, camping chairs, food and picnic stuff, but beyond that?  Thank you to my veteran camper friend and Google. I seriously searched for “what to pack for a camping trip.”

After my search, I made a list, being careful to include everything I could think of.  Only, once you actually get to where you are going do you really know what you need.  During that first night, we realized how ill-prepared we were.  Because of high temperatures during the days, I assumed our tent would get hot and we wouldn’t need very warm pajamas.  I thought wrong.  Needless to say, that next day, we made a run to the store for extra clothes and a sleeping bag.

5 things to consider next time:

  1. Be sure to check the weather, paying close attention to the highs and lows.
  2. Coffee.  Do not forget that, and do not forget extra in case you have a mishap or two, which we did.
  3. Ziplock bags.  Otherwise, your leftovers are going to get gross once your ice melts down.
  4. Pack more water than you think you need.
  5. Take extra clothes because some kid is going to forget you said to stay away from the water (or mud).

Camping with the ill-prepared

Thankfully, we have friends who camp pretty often, and they helped guide us in this unknown.  When we realized we didn’t have something, they were quick to reassure us and encourage us that we’d get the hang of it.  They helped chase JBear, our one year old, and took our big kids, along with their four kids, for a hike.

5 reasons we’ll go camping again:

  1. The kids can play as hard and as loud as they want…until 10pm.
  2. Sipping coffee in the fresh morning air…yes!
  3. No need to fix hair or makeup, though teeth brushing is required!
  4. We enjoyed the great outdoors and the beauty of God’s creation.
  5. The company…camping with friends was so much fun! And you learn so much about them.  😉

We camped at General Coffee State Park, which is not too far from us.  There was plenty for us to do yet not be overwhelmed with too much stuff.  General Coffee offers what they call a Heritage Farm that features a homestead with lots of animals.  There are canoes and pedal boats, and plenty of nature trails and playgrounds.

We were definitely ill-prepared, but we enjoyed our camping trip.  While I’m not ready to leave again tomorrow, I’m sure we will do it again soon.  I wish we had done this years ago.  It’s been a long time since our big ole family could afford a vacation, but this opens doors for us again.  We are excited about that!

What about you?  Do you camp?  Have you ever considered it?  Can I tell you–from a girl who likes to be in her cozy house at night–that it really wasn’t so bad?  Give it a try, even if just once.  Just, if you do, be sure to be better prepared than we were.  Remember:  warmth and coffee.  I think all else falls in line if those two things are in check.

 

Camping With the Ill-Prepared | The First but Not the Last Time

Happy Camping!

What I Learned About Life When My Dryer Died

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When your dryer dies, and it's raining outstide
Sarah Rozier Photography

Am I the only one who thinks of herself as Anne Shirley or Laura Ingalls Wilder sometimes? I must admit that I love those characters and what the world was like then.  Many times I have thought I was born in the wrong time period–I should have been alive during my grandparents’ childhood days.  All these pretty images, all these nostalgic feelings… Then, it happens… your dryer has died, and it’s raining outside.  The beautiful daydream ends as you look at the endless garland of clothes, and you realize that the life those people lived was way harder than the one you live.

With Christmas just around the corner and seven kids to buy for, we knew we didn’t need to spend money on the dryer right then.  My inner Laura Ingalls stepped up, and I decided that I could just hang the clothes on a clothes line to get us through the holidays.   I had done it before.

Those first couple of days were fairly easy…until I realized just how much laundry we can generate!  [Our family averages 11 loads of laundry a week.] Pretty quickly, I found that there are a good many other obstacles to not having a working dryer.

Still, I thought, this is great! I can do this for a few weeks!

Then, one day, I looked out and there was smoke filling our whole area.  So, I ran out and snatched the clothes down.  Another day, same thing happened with a gross smell.  Another day, the line snapped just as I was finishing pinning them up, and I cried!  Yet another day, rain.  All this, and there was no backup plan.  I didn’t have a dryer I could use, so there were clothes literally hanging all over my laundry room with a box fan pointed at them, as well as throughout the rest of the house.

I learned that hanging the clothes was the easy part, and that the other obstacles that stood in my way were the real challenges.

Air Drying Obstacles

  • outside conditions
    • humidity
    • smoke in the air
    • fertilizer fumes in the air
    • limited daylight
    • temps not warm enough (it was fall, then winter, ya’ll)
    • RAIN
  • logistical problems
    • not enough clothesline space
    • line snapping when you have the whole line full! (yep, that happened)
    • dust due to drought
    • children and pets thinking it’s fun to play in the clothes

What I Learned When My Dryer Died

Life and Laundry

My life at that point revolved around laundry.  There had to be a better way, but I didn’t know what it was.  I cried and prayed, and muttered under my breath, fussed at my kids, and prayed.  It really was awful at first, but then I stumbled upon this precious gem called All About Laundry:  Save Money, Save Time.  I am telling you, that book was a game changer!

What I learned (some things from the book, and some things trial and error):

  • I learned how to hang clothes outside.
  • I realized that the weather app was my new friend!
  • I realized that with proper use of fabric softener, smoke and fertilizer smells didn’t stick to our clothes.
  • I learned the best ways to hang the clothes to get the best shape and most efficient drying arrangements.
  • I knew the latest I could hang a load out so that it would be dry before dark.
  • I learned that folding as I took things off the line, almost eliminated the need for ironing.
  • As an added bonus, as months passed, I noticed a big savings on our utility bill, an average of $47 a month!  That’s $564 for the year!

Most importantly, I began to enjoy this task because I was outside enjoying fresh air in God’s creation.  It’s quiet, allowing me a few moments to enjoy the glorious sunshine and fresh air!  I began to see what was important, learning to take care of the important and urgent stuff, and letting the rest wait.

What I learned about life when my dryer died

This is true in all of life.  Everything isn’t urgent.  I thought that not having a dryer was an urgent need.  What I learned was that [for us] while a reasonable and even basic want, it’s a want.

When your dryer dies, and it’s raining outside, maybe it is the end of life as you know it (at least on the laundry front).  It was for me in the beginning, too, and I might have had a hissy fit or two!  In the end, though, it has been good, great even, even though I wanted to stomp and scream at first.  [Confession: Sometimes, like when the line breaks again, I still want to stomp and scream.]

In life, often “it’s raining when your dryer isn’t working.” I think that’s because there’s a lesson it it for us.  Do you do well and learn the lesson, or are you like me and have to have the remedial version time and time again?  My hope for us is that we can learn the lesson.  I’ve learned a lot…about myself, about doing things the old way, about patience, about finding joy in every day things.

What I Learned About Life When My Dryer Died

There is joy and satisfaction in accomplishing such a task.  Maybe I do have a little Anne or Laura in me after all.  Perhaps you do, too!

 

Bible verse of the day

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
1 John 3:1

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